Confessions of a Guilty Blogger

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A while ago, I had a terrible cold.  As I lay on the sofa drowning in self pity, hot lemon water and kleenex, I had no energy for blog duties and I realised something:  whilst I felt a bit guilty for neglecting my work load, I erm…felt partly relieved too.

 

RELIEVED I HAD A BONA FIDE EXCUSE NOT TO BLOG!

Then I felt guilty for feeling relieved I didn’t ‘have’ to blog!  In my defence, even the most dedicated employee-of-the-year type is grateful for a day off work. Cue blog post I thought.  Then I sat on the idea.  This time it wasn’t my tendency towards procrastination that made me stall.  It was more the worry I’d just get stoned by my blogging peers if I owned up to half the blogger confessions on this list!  But I’ve come to realise recently from other bloggers’ comments that:

 

I MAY NOT BE THE ONLY PERSON IN BLOGGERVILLE SUFFERING FROM BLOGGER’S GUILT…

Double. Exclamation. Mark. Yep, several people admitted to feeling the same sense of guilt I mentioned in the first edition of my new #BlogStars series; Life Love and Dirty Dishes even joked that we ought to start a group called Blogger Guilt Anonymous (man I’d be the first to join).  Honestly, I feel like a guilty blogger all the time: not writing enough, not social media-ing, not reading enough blogs, not being ‘blog-tech aware’ enough; it just goes on and on to the point where I make myself quite miserable.  And blogging isn’t meant to make you miserable.  Don’t worry, I love blogging!  This isn’t a pity post.  Not one bit.

I just feel that for various reasons, there’s no getting away from it; I need to reveal my guilty blogger confessions.

 

1. BAD TIME MANAGEMENT.  AARRRGGGGGH!

This has been a lifelong problem to be honest.  Now as a blogger, I have very limited time available to blog in the first place.  Yes, I’m a SAHM and I just said I have little time.  Punch me.  By the time I return to the house after the school run, it’s 9am.  But I can’t just sit down immediately as there is laundry and kitchen cleanup to do.  I then have to stop at 1pm to eat lunch, make dinner, clean up before fetching the kids from school.  In theory.  What really happens is that I’m only just getting in the flow by 1pm and carry on working til I have to fetch them and end up making dinner super late.  And let’s not even mention actually trying to get some exercise in.  Alright, let’s mention it.  I love starting the day with exercise; it’s the best feeling but I have to blog instead, so it either doesn’t happen or I’m going out in the evening for classes/a run which impacts on the kids’ bedtime and delays my dinner/kitchen clean-up and evening blogging sit-down time.

 

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It’s too lame to blame my failings on the dishes, the time spent supervising homework, the laundry, the cleaning, the e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g.

There is a world of bloggers out there with the same commitments, time demands and most importantly the same amount of hours in the day as me.  They can’t bend time or magically create more hours in the day.  Yet they’re all managing to blog their socks off, build site traffic and show up for linkies.  Many of them have actual day jobs…pfft!…and many of them with said day jobs actually RUN a linky!  Oh and they’re in bed by 11pm.  Meanwhile, I’m up til shocking o’clock with a quarter of their output to show for it.  I have no idea what the solution is! #BarelyCoping

 

2. BAD PRIORITIES

The kids often come second, friends come third, exercise comes fourth and the housework…it doesn’t even figure!  Yes I get the laundry done (just) but there is so much to running a household, especially when unlike your friends, you don’t have a cleaning lady.

This is something I genuinely have angst over.  Having to constantly ride the blog train visiting every compartment including the every-social-media-channel-in-existence, the linky, the guest post, the series-hosting and the writing carriages, feeling like I can never get off…is affecting family life.  I may not be a mumsy mum who enjoys crafts and baking and getting down on the floor to play with her kids but I do spend time with them in my own way: walks, beach trips, board games.  Frankly, I hate how blogsessed I’ve become, head buried in phone manically tweeting away or glued to my computer, to the point where it’s become a herculean effort to mentally switch off or step away from my devices, when I’m meant to be spending time with my kids.  It’s like I just can’t relax because my mind is constantly on the to do list piling up.

 

3. ENORMOUS.  AMOUNTS.  OF.  TIME.  ON.  LE TWITTER

Whilst other bloggers have probably whipped out two blog posts, planned their entire monthly schedule and scheduled tweets and Instagram posts, there I am spending my time having ridiculous (but hilariously addictive) conversations with my ‘posse’ including Cuddles, Rodders, Trista, NHD and Alan like this:

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We’re just juveniles really.

 

4. QUESTIONABLE LINKY BEHAVIOUR

Do I even dare talk about this or am I just about to commit bloggercide?  Let’s see, there’s the barely managing to comment before the next one Is live, the binge reading the following week to compensate etc.  Out of all the areas I feel worst over, this is the one that really gets to me.   A while ago, Life Love and Dirty Dishes said I share the blog love more than anyone she knows.  I actually stared at the screen in surprise because the thing is, her comments came at a time when I’d been doing a lot of soul searching.  The soul-searching worsened when I had one of ‘those’ weeks.  I just couldn’t balance writing, running the #OopsFiles, facebooking/instagramming/tweeting my bits off and duly commenting on the linkies I’d joined.  (Heck, it was impressive enough I’d joined the linkies in time!)  Anyway, I nearly shrank in mortification seeing a conversation on a blog forum about linkies.  Unsurprisingly, there was universal horror expressed at those who don’t give back enough re commenting.

Disclaimer: To read blogs on time and feel less guilty about ‘past indiscretions’  I recently started #BlogStars, a regular round up of posts I’ve read and loved.  The response has been wonderful and thankfully nobody stoned me, as you can see from the comments.

Thing is I’m no good at leaving one short line on a person’s post just to prove I’ve visited their site.  I tend to say quite a lot especially if I really love their post; I swear sometimes it’s like I’ve written another post at the end of theirs!  So the time it takes me to read/comment is crazy.  I also tend to leave it to the end of the day so that enough people have linked up but then I’m a) knackered b) overwhelmed at the sheer number of posts or c) inspired by something in one of the posts I do manage to read which makes me start jotting down ideas for a blog post.  When I should be reading.  Ugh.

 

5. NOT HAVING A BLOG SCHEDULE

I tried implementing one and did in fact download and print a blog scheduler.  I arranged in neatly in a binder.  I wrote on it.  A bit.  I’m not really getting on with it and need to find another one so right now, there’s a sketchy schedule in my head.  But oh to be as organised as this!  Obviously, I know much more than I did when I started out but I do feel like I’m still nowhere near clued up #AlwaysTheLastToKnow

 

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6. NOT BLOGGING ANYWHERE NEAR ENOUGH

I guess a by product of the iffy schedule.  Alright, I should cut myself a bit of slack on this one as I do write more than I ever did, having gone from one post every one and a half months (at my lowest point) to three a week, recently.  Except the three is usually two!  But I look at the output of some people like Aby and Laura and I wonder if they ever sleep.  Ever.

 

7. TAKING AN ETERNITY TO WRITE A BLOG POST.

I’m known for being very honest on my blog.  But the length of time it takes me to write a post?  Nah…not telling…taking that one with me to the grave.  In fact, I daren’t even add up the hours.  (I guess most of this post is leading towards one major theme: time management!)

I read an amazing line last week in this fab post by Live Love Blog on blogging tips.  The tip was from Slummy Mummy who advised bloggers to not fuss about getting a post perfect but just getting it done and OUT!  This has been my problem with the blog since the start.  When I have tried just writing something quickly and banging it out, I regret it because for days afterwards, I think of things I forgot.  In fact, erm, I’m writing this paragraph a day after pressing ‘publish’ on this post because I remembered only today.  I have managed to write something within two and a half hours – yes that is FAST for me!! – and in fairness, my anniversary card post is one of my biggest posts and snowballed within minutes of going out on Facebook.  But berLUDDY hell, the stress of working to a deadline nearly killed me!

8. FLITTING BETWEEN MULTIPLE TASKS WITHOUT WITHOUT ACTUALLY COMPLETING A SINGLE ONE

While writing this, I got distracted by that conversation above.  Then I saw other twitter notifications.  I rarely read posts when they come up in my feed; I’m trying to change that so I clicked on one and read the post and commented.  Then Instagram comments popped up on my phone so I ended up responding to those.  Add to all this my incurable Facebook itch so I responded to some AbPrab page comments before realising I need to schedule my page for the next day.  Are you getting the picture?!  Did I get this written?  Did I my bum.

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9. WASTING PRECIOUS TIME AND ENERGY OBSESSING OVER THE DREADED ‘NICHE’!

Someone close to me said I need to figure out my blog’s aim and niche because all the super bloggers who make a fortune did exactly that.  I’d already been feeling concerned enough about this before the remark was made…but this made me agonise for months.  What if I’m a jack of all trades and master of none?  Shouldn’t I stick to blogging about one main topic?  Is it bad that I don’t just write about mummy stuff on my ‘mummy blog’ and if so am I just a big fraud?  Will brands be put off from working with me if they can’t easily put my blog into a set box?  On and on the quandary continued in my head.  Blogger extraordinaire Cuddle Fairy recently celebrated her first blogiversary and wrote about her blogging journey to date.  I am SO glad I read that post!  Cuddles single-handedly saved me from the dark shadow cast by that niche nonsense, saying she no longer worries about it and how she just blogs about what the heck she wants (well Cuddles doesn’t say ‘heck’ because she’s a lady).  When I think of the amount of time I have wasted agonising over this.

 

10. STILL NOT KNOWING STUFF I SHOULD KNOW ABOUT TWO YEARS INTO BLOGGING

Hmmm… where do I start?!  This is just a small selection of my blog-bumbling (you can read some more in my guest post about my blogging journey for Mum Muddling Through:

  • underestimating the importance of emailing your subscriber list
  • not realising the SEO significance of placing alt text and relevant tags on images
  • not using Twitter for sharing current and older posts
  • not installing a plugin to detect broken links that could be harming my site
  • not understanding the follow vs no follow conundrum
  • not using headings in my content for the longest time

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WHAT’S THE CONCLUSION OR SOLUTION?

I love blogging.  I found myself again after the years of nappy changing, play groups and school events.  It gave me a renewed purpose, long after I’d sat an office desk with an actual job, and I can’t imagine not doing it.  As I said in the Blog Geek post, I don’t know where Prabs the person ends and Absolutely Prabulous the blogger begins and vice versa.  Yes, I feel overwhelmed by how much goes into blogging.  Yes I feel like I’d have more chance of balancing in the most impossible yoga pose whilst drinking a coffee and ironing a shirt than I do of balancing the blog with motherhood and life.

But I also know if I stopped blogging any time soon, well, I’d feel like I’d lost a limb.

So I guess there’s nothing else for it: Mama Prabulous simply has to get her s*** together!

 

ARE YOU A BLOGGER?  CAN YOU RELATE? OR AM I JUST TOTALLY UNHINGED?!  (ALRIGHT, DONT’ ANSWER THE LAST BIT.)

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56 Comments on Confessions of a Guilty Blogger

  1. Laura @ Life with Baby Kicks
    May 23, 2016 at 10:20 am (10 months ago)

    Well well well Mrs Prabs this is deep and soul searching. And that is your answer in some cases. I write more frequently because my posts are, quite literally, dumped directly from my brain without any editing. As you can tell from my bad grammar. When you meet me you’ll see I talk exactly as I type. Brain dump. No proof read. Not everyone is wired like that.

    DO NOT compare yourself.

    People read different blogs for different reasons.

    And everything you’ve “confessed” I’ve done more than once but you’ve missed the cardinal rule off – never ever compare yourself to another blogger. Apples and oranges.

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    • prabs
      May 23, 2016 at 10:22 am (10 months ago)

      And I’m the one who then advises newbies telling them that the culture of compare and despair so damaging. In fairness, I’m more annoyed about my time management than anything else. Kiwis and bananas. x

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        • prabs
          June 1, 2016 at 2:00 pm (10 months ago)

          Anyone else would think you’ve finally lost the plot. I, on the other hand, know the mysterious way in which your mind works. Is this a thank you for linking up to blogstorm comment? 🙂

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  2. Davina
    May 24, 2016 at 10:25 am (10 months ago)

    I can totally relate to this! I work a couple of days a week as well as having both kids at home most of the time the other five days and I just don’t seem to have the time to blog! And yet other people who do the same somehow manage to find the time in their own schedules. I just don’t know how they do it. I am in awe of them. And you, because your blog is fabulous and I love it. Oh, and the linky guilt! Every week that’s me! You might have noticed.

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    • prabs
      May 24, 2016 at 12:46 pm (10 months ago)

      Oh I’m so relieved about the linky things. I’ve been in angst over it! Thanks for reading.

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  3. You Baby Me Mummy
    May 24, 2016 at 10:30 pm (10 months ago)

    You are fab-u-lous darling! If we were all the same, a sad word this would be. I write loads because I work on the assumption of making hay while the sun shines (as a business owner you never know when the ops will stop coming in!) xx

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    • prabs
      May 24, 2016 at 10:57 pm (10 months ago)

      Awww cheers Aby. Glad I wrote the post actually x

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  4. Debbie
    May 25, 2016 at 7:10 pm (10 months ago)

    Hi Prabs, I could have written this myself! Honestly. And I don’t have anyone under the age of sixteen to worry about in the house.I’m trying to become more disciplined and focus on doing one thing at a time, but it’s not easy (I’ve set up a whole bunch of named timers on my laptop and try and stick to that – like now the timer I’m using is blog commenting for one hour – it’s not easy, but I’m trying).

    The only real blog schedule I have is that I like to post on a Tuesday, Friday and Sunday, but scrap Fridays if I don’t have time. I certainly never have blog posts ready in case of an emergency, how anyone else does is beyond me.

    I was just getting the hang of Instagram, but that’s fallen by the wayside as I’m trying to stay on top of commenting and like you I can’t keep it short and sweet, which is also the challenge I find on Twitter.

    How anyone can work or have small children and still manage to blog I don’t know. However I have learned that my most productive blogging hour is between six and seven in the morning, just before the family start to emerge and I head out for a run. I get more done in that hour than in four later in the day.

    And believe me when I say, my posts seem to take forever to produce too, just deciding on the image can take an hour (or more).

    So Prabs, please do not think you are alone in your blogging guilt… And I know exactly where you are coming from when you admitted your guilt for enjoying time out.

    xx

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    • prabs
      May 25, 2016 at 7:15 pm (10 months ago)

      Thank you for your lovely thoughtful comment. Glad I’m not the only ‘long’ commenter; it means we’ve actually engaged in what we read doesn’t it? (erm when we get round to reading lol). Well done on the timer idea btw; it’s how the top bloggers, in fact anyone who’s at the top of their field works efficiently. My hubby does it too and swears by it.

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  5. Right Royal Mother
    May 25, 2016 at 10:01 pm (10 months ago)

    Ahah! I read it! (Because, amazingly, I finally got around to it after spending shitloads of time today doing stuff that I don’t really want to do). You are SO not alone. As I mention today in my post, I have felt soooo guilty for the last month as I’ve had to spend the time writing a bloody novel (well, ok, a fifth of one) when I should be writing blog posts and ‘doing’ social media. I still don’t know how to generate a badge and, with a 2.5yr old and an 8mo old, a husband who is mostly not here and no childcare except on Wednesdays for one of them, I sometimes think I’m going mad. Social life (a real one?) What’s that? But I decided last week that I can only do what I can do and mustn’t feel bad for not doing everything. I love your writing. Don’t change a thing (as others have said); I just wish I had time to read more and comment more on it … but there we go … guilt … 🙂 #bloggerclubuk

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    • prabs
      May 25, 2016 at 11:04 pm (10 months ago)

      Ah sweetheart thank you’ it’s the thought that counts. 5th novel? I worship at your alter!!

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  6. Baby Anon
    May 30, 2016 at 10:55 am (10 months ago)

    I can relate to this. I think this is a very honest post. With all the commitments on me, I feel guilty when I’m writing – and when I’m not writing, I feel frustrated. It is a constant battle. There are days I feel like binning my laptop and other times when I wake in the night to write x #bigpinklink

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    • prabs
      May 30, 2016 at 12:59 pm (10 months ago)

      We’re mad to do what we do!

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  7. Annette, 3 Little Buttons
    May 30, 2016 at 3:09 pm (10 months ago)

    Ekkk! I can relate to quite a few of your points. I work full time and run a linky. It’s fairly new, and I am trying to find the right balance to be able to fit everything in… because I want to. Glad I am not the only one that gets distracted by twitter 🙂 #FartGlitter

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    • prabs
      May 30, 2016 at 5:26 pm (10 months ago)

      It’s so hard isn’t it? Thanks for reading Annette and bravo on the linky.

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  8. Natalie
    May 30, 2016 at 3:21 pm (10 months ago)

    Oh I hear ya – I’m the same but I’m so exhausted with kids and working and housework by Wednesday I’ve completely gone off the radar – seriously you are lucky to get a tweet from me never mind a blog post!!!

    I do wonder how people manage it all, great post x

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    • prabs
      May 30, 2016 at 5:26 pm (10 months ago)

      Yep the proverbial ‘how does she do it?”…!

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  9. MotherofTeenagers
    May 30, 2016 at 4:00 pm (10 months ago)

    Hi Prabs, I am a newbie and despite having two teenagers and being at home I am constantly bemoaning the fact that there just isn’t time sometimes to blog! How is that possible? Like you, I think how do those with young kids and a job do it? I found myself waking in the night last week thinking oh god I haven’t done anything for a week (had been so ill) and started to panic. More discipline is what is needed but you made me feel so much better as if an experienced blogger finds it hard then it must be ok! Thanks for sharing this. #bigpinklink

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    • prabs
      May 30, 2016 at 8:01 pm (10 months ago)

      Oh no waking up in the middle of the night worrying about is no good! Hope that’s not too often x

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  10. Emma
    May 30, 2016 at 5:29 pm (10 months ago)

    How can you have blogger guilt!?! You write amazing posts every time! I can relate to what you say though. I don’t have a clue when it comes to bloggy things like the codes and all that jazz and broken links?? I had problems with my site yesterday and the hosts were trying to explain what I needed to do and they may as well have been saying “get on a pogo stick and jump to the moon” because it didn’t make sense. They were not amused when I said what if I switch off the computer and switch it on again. It took me all evening yesterday to fix it and I wanted to throw my laptop out of the window. Do you have the editorial calender plugin? That is really good for getting your sh8t together. That is the only thing I know 🙂

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    • prabs
      May 30, 2016 at 6:08 pm (10 months ago)

      Awww next time tell me and erm I can be thoroughly useless and NOT help ha ha. Thanks for the compliment. I’m just hard on myself (character habit).

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  11. Emma
    May 30, 2016 at 5:30 pm (10 months ago)

    oh poop I meant to add #bigpinklink 🙂

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  12. Sarah - Arthurwears
    May 30, 2016 at 8:11 pm (10 months ago)

    Oh god I feel like you are me…by me if I was better at blogging! I can totally relate. I once tried scheduling my tweets with klout when I went abroad and for some unknown reasons all but two of them failed. It took me so long to schedule them I decided I’d waste less time if I just sent them out whenever, myself!

    I use blogger not WordPress – which I’m ok with, except this week I tried to schedule a post for the first time ( instead of pressing ‘publish’ myself – but if a control freak!) anyway, it didn’t post – no idea why. Not having much luck there!!
    I post about so many different things because frankly, I myself am so many different things, and my blog allows me to be more than just ‘mummy’. If that makes me jack of all trades then I’ll take it 🙂
    I do struggle with time – I prob have 30 mins when Arthur has his nap (if I’m not working) and about an hour in the evening of in lucky before he does his usual regular waking up and crying etc. I’d love to have more time to blog – but I do what I can when I can 🙂

    #fartglitter

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    • prabs
      May 30, 2016 at 8:36 pm (10 months ago)

      I absolutely admire bloggers who only have naptimes to blog. I’d have to shut mine down if that was all the time I had! I salute you.

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  13. Rhyming with Wine
    May 30, 2016 at 8:24 pm (10 months ago)

    I can so absolutely relate to this. You know my feelings on the whole techie side of blogging. I just cannot get my head around it! I read your “after two years” section at the end and I still don’t know what most of these things even mean. The time and priorities thing also rings so true with me too. I always feel like I’m neglecting my kids as I never have time without at least the littlest one. The very limited childcare we have is all used up whilst I’m at work (part time) so when I blog I have to cram as much as I can into nap times otherwise I’m either neglecting the kids or neglecting the hubby on an evening. I can’t give it up as I love it way too much and I’d be lost without it, but I do frequently have to rein myself in and remind myself that for me – it’s a hobby!
    I think you’re an awesome blogger and to me you really do seem to have your sh1t together! You’re a finalist for goodness sake! Who cares about the rest of the nonsense?? An ACTUAL FINALIST!!! Whoop Whoop!! xx
    #bigpinklink

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    • prabs
      May 30, 2016 at 8:39 pm (10 months ago)

      Luckily my hubby doesn’t feel neglected in any way as he’s a workaholic and knows what it takes to build a business. But as you say for you it just a hobby and frankly I’m amazed at how much you write and do in the little time you have. It’s awe inspiring! So you can admire my finalist credentials. I’ll admire the fact that you are one of the people I mentioned who works, blogs and runs a linky!

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      • Rhyming with Wine
        May 30, 2016 at 9:33 pm (10 months ago)

        Aw thanks Prabs! I’ll take that one, that’s made my evening 😉 xx

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  14. Rhyming with Wine
    May 30, 2016 at 8:34 pm (10 months ago)

    … Ooh me again! (I am officially stalking you now!). Back through #fartglitter this time. Thanks so much for linking up xx

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    • prabs
      May 30, 2016 at 8:39 pm (10 months ago)

      lol! xx

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  15. justsayingmum
    May 31, 2016 at 9:01 am (10 months ago)

    Oh I hear you, I hear you Prabs! What really gets me is that I started this as a hobby as I love writing – I’d never written a blog but had seen the guru who shall be named the Unmumsymum pop up on fb and I thought – I want to be her – I want to write – let’s do this – so I set up a wordpress account – published an article – waited an hour and then wondered why I hadn’t gone viral! Then when I started to delve a little deeper – well not that deep really – I was struck with just how big this blogging community is – I seriously had no idea – had never read a mummy blog in my life – actually thought I was on to something big – oh how I laugh at myself now! Whilst I am thrilled that I joined I now have no time in my life to do anything – your yoga pose picture sums it up beautifully. I don’t schedule, I get caught up in twitter chat too much but I have to remember why I started and what the aim of my blog is otherwise it consumes me too much. You are fab Prab and your success speaks for itself – you don’t need to change a thing #BigPinkLink

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    • prabs
      May 31, 2016 at 11:09 am (10 months ago)

      OMG waited an hour and wondered why it hadn’t gone viral!! PML. And I had the same thought about the Unmumsy Mum (and am a tad excited she’s coming to the BiBs erm because I harangued her into it…oops!) Seriously, it’s just all-consuming isn’t it? At the end of the day, we just have to do what we can do. Simples. Thanks for the beautiful sentiment at the end x

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  16. Ellen
    May 31, 2016 at 3:33 pm (10 months ago)

    I adore this, I am very new to blogging and I’m not even self hosted or owt but I have much of this guilt! I said to my husband recently ‘some people have FULL TIME JOBS, look after their kids, blog every day AND do linkies! And twitter and…’ at which point he tuned out but I genuinely don’t understand how people do it. You are WONDERFUL and everyone loves your blog – you certainly don’t need a niche! #bigpinklink

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    • prabs
      May 31, 2016 at 4:23 pm (10 months ago)

      Awwww such a lovely compliment thank you (cheque’s in the post ahem). I know…HOW HOW do they do it?

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  17. wendy
    June 1, 2016 at 9:02 am (10 months ago)

    Prabs, you sound just like me! It takes me at least 3 hours (!) to finish a post and it has to be perfect before I publish it. I always want to share more love in linkies but can never find the time to do the reading and sharing and often end up frantically binge reading. I think it’s really hard to find the balance. You have lots of people who love your blog though and if you love it too I say stop feeling guilty and enjoy it 🙂 xx #BloggerClubUK

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    • prabs
      June 1, 2016 at 12:11 pm (10 months ago)

      Thanks for the kind words Wendy. 3 hours eh? You lucky thing… 🙂

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  18. Mrs Tubbs
    June 1, 2016 at 2:39 pm (10 months ago)

    Oh, I could have written this, but not as well. I find it really hard to fit it all in and am wondering about what to do about it … I suspect it’ll be slightly less blogging so I can keep up with the other bits. Who’d have thought this blogging malarkey would be so much work!

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    • prabs
      June 1, 2016 at 3:11 pm (10 months ago)

      Ah thanks love. It’s amazing how many people relate! And there I was genuinely wondering if I was commit blog suicide writing it!

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  19. Unhinged Mummy (aka Janine Woods)
    June 1, 2016 at 7:42 pm (10 months ago)

    I am so glad that I just blog for a little hobby. I only post once a fortbight, sometimes every three weeks even. Probably why I don’t have many readers bit I honestly do just blog for myself and if anyone else wants to read my posts then that’s just a bonus. SAD but true. I definately wouldn’t be able to blog for a living. I’m just not dedicated enough. I don’t even have the time or the energy to start my own linky lol

    #bestandworst

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    • prabs
      June 1, 2016 at 8:43 pm (10 months ago)

      OH I think blogging for a living is less stressful than running a linky ha ha.

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  20. Jade Lloyd
    June 2, 2016 at 3:06 pm (10 months ago)

    Fab post, a much more eloquent way of putting all the thoughts whirring round in my sleep deprived brain! I realised trying to blog daily chasing a small boy and working all day was not possible even with caffeine. I have been in blog world 9 weeks and have a lot of post its everywhere saying sort your shit out..there is a lot of love out there for you and I can see why:)! I spend most of my time sending gifs to people! xxx

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    • prabs
      June 2, 2016 at 3:30 pm (10 months ago)

      Thank you so much for the gorgeous comment. Definitely feeling the love (erm after writing a post that I thought would bring me condemnation!). Happy continuation (that’s a Frenchism and I don’t what we say in English) with the blogging.

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  21. Kristine @MumRevised
    June 2, 2016 at 3:10 pm (10 months ago)

    You are a silly girl. Some of us aspire to do as much as you. But I still have days when the Netflix pull is stronger than social media. Inspiration always comes first, but sometimes Scandal is just as inspiring.
    I had to drop the linky’s because I was getting angry at visiting/reading/commenting on all the mommy blogs and having no one comment on mine (literally crickets). Seemed unfair. It might have been the swearing. Maybe they were off breastfeeding and didn’t care. Anyway–it freed up time 🙂
    If only my hobby would make me some real money now…

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    • prabs
      June 2, 2016 at 3:43 pm (10 months ago)

      Ah that means a lot as you’re one of the bloggers I aspire to be lol! Thanks for reading (and ditto re the money).

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  22. Mess and Merlot
    June 2, 2016 at 3:11 pm (10 months ago)

    OK so from the comments above I think it’s already clear that lots of other bloggers can relate to this but just for the record I honestly don’t think anyone would accuse you of slacking on the blogging front. You’re very active and interactive online (although I’m not on the Facebeak, I know, I KNOW I should!) you post regularly and from what I remember comment on lots of other posts.
    I’m also a SAHM who likes to get some exercise in straight after the school run and I have no clue how people work, blog, linky etc either!!! I can just about get my arse in gear to vacuum and get a load of washing in before 3pm rolls around.
    I get what you’re saying though re taking your blog to the next level, it’s a totally different game, basically a full time job from what I can make out, I’m nowhere near that stage myself but if I ever was to get there I’d definitely need to have a serious talk with myself re time management
    Also a comment-waffler, I actually feel guilty if I do manage to post a short comment/reply!
    I’m never capable of writing a post in less than 3hrs, deliberating over every word and certainly no more than once a week at the moment. I ‘ve also never scheduled a post as I get far too excited about actually completing something that I couldn’t possibly wait to get out there!
    I saw a photo online this week a revision ‘technique’ where each chapter of a book divided by chocolate bars, that’s definitely a motivational tool I could get on board with

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    • prabs
      June 2, 2016 at 3:43 pm (10 months ago)

      I really do feel so relieved after seeing the comments. I’m amazed. Here we all are suffering in silence lol. Thanks for the lovely comment. And listen, your one post a week is always so worth the wait…quality over quantity. Always.

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  23. My Petit Canard
    June 3, 2016 at 11:30 pm (10 months ago)

    Such a greeeeeat post! I feel like you literally reached into my brain and pulled the words out. Safe to say you arent the only one suffering from many of these guilty secrets. On a serious note, I could seriously relate. Blogging at times is so overwhelming and more recently as mat leave starts, I have been questioning whether I really want to spend the next precious year throwing so much of myself into it when I could throw more of myself into the two little ones (I so do, but is it the right thing is more the question!). Its such a tough one, but I genuinely love it. I just get scared sometimes that I might look back on these years and feel likes its lost time.. Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Fab post! Emily x

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    • prabs
      June 4, 2016 at 10:53 pm (10 months ago)

      Wow isn’t amazing how many people related to this? I honestly thought I was going to get slated! Whilst other bloggers can’t lessen my (self-imposed) work load, I do feel better for having aired my worries as I definitely feel less alone.

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  24. Helen Gandy
    June 7, 2016 at 9:47 pm (10 months ago)

    Just go with the flow Prabs, it’s the best way in my eyes! I loved this post, so true, even running a linky and then linking up elsewhere I sometimes have no idea whether I’m coming or going. Thanks for linking up! #bestandworst

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    • prabs
      June 7, 2016 at 11:44 pm (10 months ago)

      Thanks Helen I’m trying but it’s hard lol

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  25. Marikah
    June 9, 2016 at 2:07 pm (10 months ago)

    Girl! I can relate It’s really hard to stay focused sometimes while trying to multitask and do everything else. In the end you just got to focus that’s all hahaha or else the guilt will consume you!

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    • prabs
      June 9, 2016 at 5:57 pm (10 months ago)

      Thanks MJ I agree, just do what you can do.

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  26. Tim
    July 23, 2016 at 12:34 am (8 months ago)

    I think many of us share many of these confessions but not many will admit it. I will admit to being a crap blogger in so many ways. I care more about writing than I do about SEO or or rankings or audience building or ruthless self-promotion. Not that I’m saying they’re bad things or that others shouldn’t do them, but I just can’t be bothered. I love reading and commenting (but I never seem to have time to do it and I often run out of time to do my duty on linkies). I love doing my podcasts (even though I know I’m not a natural host and spending so much time on them means my blog suffers). I know exactly what I need to do to build my numbers and rankings (but I’d rather spend my time writing another parody song that hardly anyone will listen to).

    Ah, sod it. I’m going to write another post.

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    • prabs
      July 28, 2016 at 1:41 am (8 months ago)

      How have I not replied to this?! Oh my gawd…another guilty blogger moment ha ha. I do think you have a great balance and outlook actually. It’s crazy the stress we can inflict on ourselves, all of our own making! Thanks for reading.

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  27. Cherie
    September 16, 2016 at 11:13 pm (6 months ago)

    What a great post!

    I’ve been blogging for around 18 months over at Cherrysnotmyname.wordpress.com

    It was purely place to get stuff out of my head, I was posting relatively regularly. Then I discovered, Twitter and blog stats and linkies and it all became too much. I began posting random stuff, I couldn’t keep up with all I needed to do. I didn’t really understand everything that comes with blogging. Also I was doing everything on my on my phone, I finally have my laptop fixed. onwards and upwards as they say.

    I am currently taking a little break whilst I try and learn a little more about it. I want to be more consistent with content and posting. I want to be able to respond and follow more blogs etc. Your post could have been written by me.

    This is the first post of yours I have read. I found you via a comment you left over at gymbunnymummy.com I will definately be subscribing to your posts. I love that you have spoken about how bloody hard it is trying to balance it all. I am planning on go self hosted soon, which is scary and I want to make sure I have a better understanding of how it is going to work for me.

    I just wanted to say, thank you for letting me know it is not just me. I look forward to reading more of your posts. I am on a social media hiatus at the moment, but once I have found my feet again, I look forward to following you on twitter etc. Keep doing what you are doing. its great.

    Much love

    Cherie x

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    • prabs
      September 19, 2016 at 12:11 am (6 months ago)

      What a gorgeous comment Cherie. And interesting to see how you found the site too. Glad you liked and related to the post. See you again on here!

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