Posts Tagged ‘motivation’

Quotes Linky: Candid Cuddles 79

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Lovely Candid Cucdlers, it’s 79!

Hullooo welcome to Candid Cuddles 79, my last one before I head off to the UK for a big fat Indian wedding! that  Thank you so much for your lovely linked posts last week.  For the last couple of weeks, we’ve been featuring a blogger rather than picking a fave. This week, it’s a big congrats to the fab Michelle of Rockin Random Mom with If He is Not Worthy.

 

April Linky Schedule

Now, Becky & I both have packed April’s ahead of us on the personal front. We’ll therefore be taking a couple of weeks’ break & solo hosting the other two weeks. So this is how it will run in April:

3rd – Linky runs on Cuddle Fairy only (Becky will tweet all you all reminders).

10 & 17 – Candid Cuddles is on an extended Easter break.

24 – linky runs on Absolutely Prabulous only (I will tweet everyone).

** If you don’t receive a reminder tweet & want one, please tweet myself or Becky so we can add you to the list – @CuddleFairy @AbPrabulous

About Candid Cuddles

The #CandidCuddles quote linky is about being creative, sharing a message, a personal insight, a mantra that helps you in your life and so on. Posts with any type of quote are welcome to link up. The quote can be typed or a graphic. The quote can be inspirational, motivational, funny, sarcastic or anything else you like. If you are new to Candid Cuddles & need any help linking up, you can read Becky’s Linky Guide or tweet either of us at @AbPrabulous / @CuddleFairy.

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Candid Cuddles 79: When/Where/How!

* Will be open from Monday 7:00pm – Wednesday 7:00pm GMT.

* Every linked post gets a comment from a host & a RT from both of us.

* Pin your quote graphics to the Candid Cuddles Pinterest board. Contact to be added to the board.

* Becky and I will each pick our favourites to feature on our blogs each week.

The Rules:

1. Add our badge to the HTML / text portion of your post (or a back link to cuddlefairy.com  and absolutelyprabulous.com)

Absolutely Prabulous

2. Link your post via the inklinkz button bottom left of this post.
3. Please comment on both Host Posts, the post directly before yours & one more of your choice. Feel free to comment on more than that, but please do those 4 as a minimum.

4. Pinterest Board Rules: Pin one quote per week to the board. The quote pinned must be linked up here.

5. After you link up, tag us for a retweet: @CuddleFairy @AbPrabulous.
Be sure to include the hashtag #candidcuddles.

(I don’t want to list this is an actual rule but if you’d like to follow me on my various social media, if not already, then I won’t stop you! You can find me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

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So…if you have a quote, inspiring words, a funny saying etc that strikes a chord with you, we’d love it if you shared it with us here on Candid Cuddles 79. We look forward to reading your posts!

Quotes Linky: Candid Cuddles 74

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Welcome to Candid Cuddles 74 folks

Welcome to another edition of #CandidCuddles the happy smiley warm feel good linky that gets my week off to a great start (and I hope yours too! So I’m just looking at this image above that @cuddlefairy and I use and really registering the warm sunny feel of it for the first time in ages. Why? Because I’m not typing this from Malta this week where we have sunny days by the sea just like this. I mean I’m typing it from f f f freeeeeezing London where I’ve had so much fun hanging out with blog friends filming more #bloggerscafe episodes but where  I’m going to be so happy to fly out from!

Our Faves!

This must be the first time this has happened but Becky and I both chose each others as our faves! I did also get rather teary over Jaki’s I Love you More.

About Candid Cuddles

The #CandidCuddles quote linky is about being creative, sharing a message, a personal insight, a mantra that helps you in your life and so on. Posts with any type of quote are welcome to link up. The quote can be typed or a graphic. The quote can be inspirational, motivational, funny, sarcastic or anything else you like. If you are new to Candid Cuddles & need any help linking up, you can read Becky’s Linky Guide or tweet either of us at @AbPrabulous / @CuddleFairy.

I’ve linked up a golden oldie which was actually the first ever post I linked to #candidcuddles when Becky hosted solo.

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Candid Cuddles 74: When/Where/How!

* Will be open from Monday 7:00pm – Wednesday 7:00pm GMT.

* Every linked post gets a comment from a host & a RT from both of us.

* Pin your quote graphics to the Candid Cuddles Pinterest board. Contact to be added to the board.

* Becky and I will each pick our favourites to feature on our blogs each week.

The Rules:

1. Add our badge to the HTML / text portion of your post (or a back link to cuddlefairy.com  and absolutelyprabulous.com)

Absolutely Prabulous
2. Link your post via the inklinkz button bottom left of this post.
3. Please comment on both Host Posts, the post directly before yours & one more of your choice. Feel free to comment on more than that, but please do those 4 as a minimum.

4. Pinterest Board Rules: Pin one quote per week to the board. The quote pinned must be linked up here.

5. After you link up, tag us for a retweet: @CuddleFairy @AbPrabulous.
Be sure to include the hashtag #candidcuddles.

(I don’t want to list this is an actual rule but if you’d like to follow me on my various social media, if not already, then I won’t stop you! You can find me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

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So…if you have a quote, inspiring words, a funny saying etc that strikes a chord with you, we’d love it if you shared it with us here on Candid Cuddles 74. We look forward to reading your posts!


Word: How a Parent Fail Can Lead to a Parenting Epiphany!

Are you one of those people who’s an arts and crafts wizard?

The kind who can whip up the most amazing creation with nothing but a few buttons, some glue, a piece of foil and a cereal box?  Or are you like me?

 The kind of person who can barely draw a straight line?

Why do I ask? Well, all I’ll say is this week’s words of wisdom and vlog are inspired by none other than my a total parent fail…and my 7yo daughter who led me to come up with the following:

 

Want to know why I came up with this? Of course you do. Go watch 🙂

Quotes Linky: Candid Cuddles 71

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Welcome to Candid Cuddles 71

Hulloooo! Welcome back to Candid Cuddles (and welcome for the first time if you are new). It’s the end of January people! How on earth did that happen?!  For me it seems to have flown by and here we are at the final Candid Cuddles of the first month of 2017 before headig into February.  Cheesy as it may sound, I have found myself struggling to choose a favourite linked post this month as the quality has been absolutely brilliant amongst all the ones I’ve read.  In the end, I went with What my Fridge Says with the most beautiful set of words: A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles. Go read if you haven’t already. Becky’s was the post by Little Hearts, Big Love

 

Right, on with the show!

The #CandidCuddles quote linky is about being creative, sharing a message, a personal insight, a mantra that helps you in your life and so on. Posts with any type of quote are welcome to link up. The quote can be typed or a graphic. The quote can be inspirational, motivational, funny, sarcastic or anything else you like. If you are new to Candid Cuddles & need any help linking up, you can read Becky’s Linky Guide or tweet either of us at @AbPrabulous / @CuddleFairy.

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Candid Cuddles 71: When/Where/How!

* Will be open from Monday 7:00pm – Wednesday 7:00pm GMT.

* Every linked post gets a comment from a host & a RT from both of us.

* Pin your quote graphics to the Candid Cuddles Pinterest board. Contact to be added to the board.

* Becky and I will each pick our favourites to feature on our blogs each week.

 

The Rules:

1. Add our badge to the HTML / text portion of your post (or a back link to cuddlefairy.com  and absolutelyprabulous.com)

Absolutely Prabulous
2. Link your post via the inklinkz button bottom left of this post.
3. Please comment on both Host Posts, the post directly before yours & one more of your choice. Feel free to comment on more than that, but please do those 4 as a minimum.

4. Pinterest Board Rules: Pin one quote per week to the board. The quote pinned must be linked up here.

5. After you link up, tag us for a retweet: @CuddleFairy @AbPrabulous.
Be sure to include the hashtag #candidcuddles.

(I don’t want to list this is an actual rule but if you’d like to follow me on my various social media, if not already, then I won’t stop you! You can find me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

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So…if you have a quote, inspiring words, a funny saying etc that strikes a chord with you, we’d love it if you shared it with us here on Candid Cuddles 71. We look forward to reading your posts!

Word! You Don’t Reach the Summit Without…

Well I can honestly say I didn’t want to post my vlog for this week’s Words of Wisdom post that I usually link up to the #CandidCuddles linky.

Why? Oh let me see, less than ideal image quality, cars hooting, wind blowing but these are minor issues compared to how many TIMES I said the phrase ‘it takes time’. Jeez Louise. I do apologise. Even worse, I kind of feel I didn’t quite say what I wanted to say clearly. Grrr.

Anyway I’m about to break a record for the shortest post ever because I’m racing against the clock to get this post up on my site. Oh lucky you! A short post and a video that is a bit shorter than the last one!

 

 

THE QUOTES LINKY: CANDID CUDDLES 70

Welcome to Candid Cuddles 70

Thanks so much to our Candid Cuddlers of last week. I loved the mixture of moving, practical and funny linked posts! Mummy and the Mexicans had some great goal-setting tips and What my Fridge Says made me laugh and inspired me to have a better attitude towards housework (although I’m still going to avoid ironing ha ha).  My fave was from Jaki Jelz; her post about people’s behaviour sometimes being down to jealousy and the lovely words to help deal with it really spoke to me and reminded me of incidents in my own life.

 

Right, on with the show!

The #CandidCuddles quote linky is about being creative, sharing a message, a personal insight, a mantra that helps you in your life and so on. Posts with any type of quote are welcome to link up. The quote can be typed or a graphic. The quote can be inspirational, motivational, funny, sarcastic or anything else you like. If you are new to Candid Cuddles & need any help linking up, you can read Becky’s Linky Guide or tweet either of us at @AbPrabulous / @CuddleFairy.

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Candid Cuddles 70: When/Where/How!

* Will be open from Monday 7:00pm – Wednesday 7:00pm GMT.

* Every linked post gets a comment from a host & a RT from both of us.

* Pin your quote graphics to the Candid Cuddles Pinterest board. Contact to be added to the board.

* Becky and I will each pick our favourites to feature on our blogs each week.

 

The Rules:

1. Add our badge to the HTML / text portion of your post (or a back link to cuddlefairy.com  and absolutelyprabulous.com)

Absolutely Prabulous
2. Link your post via the inklinkz button bottom left of this post.
3. Please comment on both Host Posts, the post directly before yours & one more of your choice. Feel free to comment on more than that, but please do those 4 as a minimum.

4. Pinterest Board Rules: Pin one quote per week to the board. The quote pinned must be linked up here.

5. After you link up, tag us for a retweet: @CuddleFairy @AbPrabulous.
Be sure to include the hashtag #candidcuddles.

(I don’t want to list this is an actual rule but if you’d like to follow me on my various social media, if not already, then I won’t stop you! You can find me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

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So…if you have a quote, inspiring words, a funny saying etc that strikes a chord with you, we’d love it if you shared it with us here on Candid Cuddles 70. We look forward to reading your posts!


The Quotes Linky: # Candid Cuddles 69

Welcome to Candid Cuddles 69

A huge thank you to all of you who turned out to kick things off brilliantly last week with our first Candid Cuddles of the year. It was wonderful to see ‘old’ faces and welcome some newcomers!

Talking of newcomers, my favourite linked post from last week (although it was a bit hard to choose) was from The Naughty Forty Diaries. I loved the sentiment of Tracy’s post 2017… and particularly love seeing a familiar quote done in a different way (in this case “life is too short” which comes up a lot on this linky and with good reason!). Becky’s fave was by the lovely Jaki with I Love my Life which I’ve just read and have to admit to crying over! I found it a very emotional read and wondered whether my eldest would be able to say this about her life.

Right, on with the show!

The #CandidCuddles quote linky is about being creative, sharing a message, a personal insight, a mantra that helps you in your life and so on. Posts with any type of quote are welcome to link up.  The quote can be typed or a graphic. The quote can be inspirational, motivational, funny, sarcastic or anything else you like.  If you are new to Candid Cuddles & need any help linking up, you can read Becky’s Linky Guide or tweet either of us at @AbPrabulous / @CuddleFairy.

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Candid Cuddles 69: When/Where/How!

* Will be open from Monday 7:00pm – Wednesday 7:00pm GMT.

* Every linked post gets a comment from a host & a RT from both of us.

* Pin your quote graphics to the Candid Cuddles Pinterest board. Contact  to be added to the board.

* Becky and I will each pick our favourites to feature on our blogs each week.

The Rules:

1. Add our badge to the HTML / text portion of your post or a back link to cuddlefairy.com or absolutelyprabulous.com

Absolutely Prabulous
2. Link your post via the inklinkz button bottom left of this post.

3. Please comment on both Host Posts, the post directly before yours & one more of your choice.  Feel free to comment on more than that, but please do those 4 as a minimum.

4. Pinterest Board Rules: Pin one quote per week to the board. The quote pinned must be linked up here.

5. After you link up, tag us for a retweet: @CuddleFairy @AbPrabulous.
Be sure to include the hashtag #candidcuddles.

(I don’t want to list this is an actual rule but if you’d like to follow me on my various social media, if not already, then I won’t stop you!  You can find me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

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So…if you have a quote, inspiring words, a funny saying etc that strikes a chord with you, we’d love it if you shared it with us here on Candid Cuddles 69.  We look forward to reading your posts!


Quotes Linky: Candid Cuddles 67

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Hello and welcome to Candid Cuddles 67…the last one before Christmas! 

The #CandidCuddles quote linky is about being creative, sharing a message, a personal insight, a mantra that helps you in your life and so on. Posts with any type of quote are welcome to link up.  The quote can be typed or a graphic. The quote can be inspirational, motivational, funny, sarcastic or anything else you like.  If you are new to Candid Cuddles & need any help linking up, you can read Becky’s Linky Guide or tweet either of us at @AbPrabulous / @CuddleFairy.

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Candid Cuddles 67: When/Where/How!

* Will be open from Monday 7:00pm – Wednesday 7:00pm GMT.

* Every linked post gets a comment from a host & a RT from both of us.

* Pin your quote graphics to the Candid Cuddles Pinterest board. Contact  to be added to the board.

* Becky and I will each pick our favourites to feature on our blogs each week.

The Rules:

1. Add our badge to the HTML / text portion of your post or a back link to cuddlefairy.com or absolutelyprabulous.com

Absolutely Prabulous
2. Link your post via the inklinkz button bottom left of this post.

3. Please comment on both Host Posts, the post directly before yours & one more of your choice.  Feel free to comment on more than that, but please do those 4 as a minimum.

4. Pinterest Board Rules: Pin one quote per week to the board. The quote pinned must be linked up here.

5. After you link up, tag us for a retweet: @CuddleFairy @AbPrabulous.
Be sure to include the hashtag #candidcuddles.

(I don’t want to list this is an actual rule but if you’d like to follow me on my various social media, if not already, then I won’t stop you!  You can find me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

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So…if you have a quote, inspiring words, a funny saying etc that strikes a chord with you, we’d love it if you shared it with us here on Candid Cuddles 67.  We look forward to reading your posts!

I’d also like to say thanks to our newer and of course loyal regulars to joining #CandidCuddles so far since the series returned after the summer.  We’ve really enjoyed reading your posts which have been inspiring and thought-provoking.

Merry Christmas! xx


Word! Be Careful How You Talk to Yourself…

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Be Careful How You Talk to Yourself…

So I’ve decided I’ll do most if not all of my #CandidCuddles quotes in video form.  Sometimes I can put across what I want to say better in vlog format, and sometimes in blog format.  Ooooh…keeps things interesting 🙂  I loved this line ‘Be careful how you talk to yourself’ when I first saw it a few weeks ago and it has really stuck with me. So watch my vlog to find out why.

This week, I’ll keep things short and sweet by just linking the vlog rather than writing a whole post before it (which was not my original intention last week anyway but ‘inspiration’ hit and I wrote an entire blogiversary post as a preamable to my vlog!).  So here you go, my little pearl of wisdom for this week and a little shout out for one of our regular Candid Cuddlers.

NB if you want to watch any of my other vlogs, just click here.

Enjoy!

 

 

15 Things I Want to Pass on From Three Years of Blogging

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Absolutely Prabulous, my Fourth Child is Three Years Old!

November is a mad month for me and my fam.  Two nephews’ birthdays, parents’ anniversary, two of my kids have birthdays three days apart (hail my legendary family planning skills NOT) and the day after the second of those birthdays, my blog has its birthday (or blogiversary as it’s known).  Now nature and biology are what they are; I couldn’t do an awful lot about my kids’ dates of birth once the baby-making deed was done. But quite why I chose to launch my blog the same week in which I am drowning in birthday organisation and my kitchen is covered in flour,sugar and eggs, I will never know.  Excuse me while I sit down.

Anyway, I Thought I’d Write a Blogiversary Post…

Now I’ve never written one of these before as it didn’t dawn on me to do so and frankly I wouldn’t think I have much to say.  However, I’ve noticed blogiversary posts here and there and it got me thinking that it would be a good idea to get a few thoughts down.  I mean surely  I’ve learned something right? So here you go, these are just fifteen of the many things I’ve learned in three years of blogging!

 

1) Almost Every Blogger Goes Through Blog Angst and Eventually Comes out the Other Side (one way or another)

Blog angst? I could write the book on it. Trying to do it all: write great content, build that  Faceberk/Twatter/Instaglam following, read a dozen posts on just one linky and comment my bits off to support my fellow bloggers (and maybe pick up a new follower) get published on other sites in the hope of traffic and backlink benefit, work with brands offering nice-to-have products and ambassadeurship opportunities, writing sponsored posts that don’t make me feel like I’m selling my soul, earning an income SOMEHOW out of the whole damned gig.  I could go on!    I’ve written about the whole blog/family/life balance thing in Confessions of a Guilty Blogger and I Love Blogging but I’ve Made a Decision.  What’s more, recently I read a cracking one by Squished Blueberries on this issue.  I still go through phases (frequent phases ha ha) of wondering what I’m doing but I think I’m more at peace now than I ever have been with my blog (my close blogging friends will probably laugh reading that bit).  I think more or less bloggers can be split into four categories:

Some bloggers lose themselves down a rabbit hole and give up altogether.
Some make their peace upon recognising the enormity of effort required and settle for doing what they can when they can.
Some decide what they want from blogging from the start and go after that.
Some have a laid back approach to the whole thing but end up being unexpectedly successful.

 

2) It’s okay to Write What People Want to Read but Don’t Forget to Write for Yourself Too

Now I know the super league élite will shake their heads at this.  Obviously, if your game plan from the word go is to build a highly-monetised blog with incredible monthly stats, this doesn’t apply. That game plan involves writing specific content in a calculated stye.  But I honestly believe it’s so important to write posts for you, posts that are straight from the heart whether they’re sensitive or controversial, content that says what you really feel rather than soulless words you’re typing just to be seen to have typed them, posts you simply have to share no matter if it’s only you and your mum reading them.  As the Glorious Life said recently (in a post about blogging) the one thing that you have is you.  Nobody can write what’s in your heart like you can, because it’s in your heart.  Nuff said.

 

3) It’s Fab to Win a Blog Award but Life Doesn’t Change Much and You Still Have to do the Laundry

A tongue in cheek one here!  Winning my BiBs award was the biggest highlight of this year.  I still smile about it. It was also an interesting lesson…I went through a lot of doubt wondering if every post I wrote had to be amazing after that.  I wouldn’t say I had any more brand approaches than those I was already receiving.  And rather annoyingly I still need to do  mum things. Pfft.

 

4) You Learn SO Much as a Blogger…but You’ll Never Know Everything

I often think I don’t know much about blogging, yet repeatedly there are examples of just how much I’ve learned in the last three years.  From building my site to how to get Faceberk to stop pulling the wrong images to SEO best practice to cross-posting to duplicate content penalties to photoshop to THIS! (<p>&nbsp;</p>) to plugins to DA’s to putting the right person at the front of a tweet to getting grips with YouTube to hashtags to the correct social media images sizes…the list goes on.  Yet despite knowing a crazy amount of stuff and being quite fluent in blog speak, it’s impossible to know everything. I can still spend hours trying to figure something technical out which once figured out, will then change some time later due to Google changing its rules or Faceberk messing around yet abloodygain with its algorithm or Instagram deciding it no longer allows this, that or the other.

 

5) Not Everybody Understands Reciprocity and at Some Point You Probably Will Experience a Bloggers Behaving Badly Incident

Yeah…I’ll let than one hang there in the air for a while and perhaps elaborate on that in the future. For the time being I’ll just say, be kind.  Good karma is…well exactly that. Good.   Sharing someone else’s post doesn’t take long and it makes them SO happy. Pay it forward.  The blogosphere is big enough; there is room for all of us. And when another blogger does you a kind deed, be it sharing a post with a big write up or just a simple RT, thank you goes a long way.  I know we all get busy doing life and sometimes the day/week gets away from us. But thank you takes seconds. Just saying.

 

6) Content Will Aways Win over Design but a Shiny Looking Blog Doesn’t Hurt!

Okay, we know it.  You can have the sexiest best designed blog everrrr. But if you’re not writing engaging/useful/moving/informative/relateable (pick your adjective of choice depending on what you’re all about) content that people want to read, then it really doesn’t matter how nice your blog looks, that reader ain’t staying.  However, just throwing in my AbPrab tuppence worth here, it doesn’t hurt to have a well designed blog that is easy on the eye. (Ignore the design of mine, it’s driving me nuts after three years and I need a change!) I’ll be honest, superficial as this may make me sound, I’ve immediately clicked away from blogs the layout/colour/fonts of which gave me a headache. If your site is easy to navigate and half decent, it MAY just be the difference between that person staying on your blog a wee bit longer to see what else you have to say and clicking away. Simples.  Talking of content:

 

7) You Can Spend Days Labouring over a Post You Think is the Best Thing Ever and it Bombs, Then Bash one out in Minutes and it Goes Viral

Go figure.  This is why I’m not sure scheduling posts actually works for me.  I find they are the ones that are too thought out and almost a bit soulless.  The ones I write after a whimsical idea work best.  So I’ve decided not to put the same level of meticulousness into every post I write, as I used to.  I’ve actually made myself let posts go out recently that are 90% ok instead of endlessly reworking them as I used to.  Hubster once told me the saying:

Better an imperfect plan executed today than a perfect plan put off til tomorrow.

 

I kind of agree even though the perfectionist in me wanted to rip her own ears off when he first said it.  He also said something else which has turned out be proven right time and time again.  In fact, this very post has been one of those examples because I almost scrapped it thinking it would just come across as self-aggrandising rather than helpful (and am just adding this bit a week after original publication as so many people have described is a really useful tips post):

Don’t second guess whether you should publish a post because it’s ‘not good enough’. It’s not actually up to you to decide what people do and don’t want to read. It’s up to them. So just write the damned post!

In fact, this also ties in with something else he pointed out (number 8).  Honestly, I might want to wring his neck sometimes but the man doth speak sense:

 

8) You Need to Learn What to Write for Human Eyes and What to Write for Google Eyes

Love it! Epiphanyyyyyyyy. (Can you hear me singing that?)  Believe it or not, not every post needs to be a masterpiece. No I’m not at all encouraging churning out post after post at the expense of quality.  However, it is in fact alright to write some posts with enormous attention to detail on all fronts while publishing others in which you have invested very little time, (purely to score brownie points off those Google bots who have a thing for regular posting).

 

9) Blogging Can Help You Find a Sense of Purpose

I love my kids but SAHM motherhood can make you lose yourself in a parenting wilderness of permanently sticky floors and endless birthday parties.  Launching AbPrab helped me find a huge part of me again that had somehow got lost along the way with all the nappy changing, packed lunches and homework. It has also ignited in me a dream I never knew I actually had…to write for newspapers or magazines or I don’t know SOMETHING that I’d never ever have thought to do if it weren’t for AbPrab.

 

10) Your Blog Goals Can Change and That is Just Fine.

I can’t imagine there are many bloggers whose outlook hasn’t slightly shifted or indeed fully metamorphosed since they started out.  I’m mulling over my own goals a fair bit at present and I may change my mind next week (I’m a Pisces after all) but I think I’m leaning away from heavy monetisation of my blogette. I’ll still carry on deriving some income from it but I think I may instead pursue paid content writing.

 

11) Getting on the HuffPost is Nice for Your Media Kit but…That’s About It.

I hesitated to include this as I don’t want to burst anyone’s bubble.  I see posts from ecstatic bloggers excitedly announcing they’ve got on to the Huff – and yes I did that too and I’ll be honest there is still something nice about seeing my name and bio under that hallowed Huff header – but sadly, it is well documented that it does nothing to drive traffic to one’s site. I guess the exception might be if they feature you on their front page as a pick of the day/week.  Once I realised that was the case for me, I stopped contributing regularly and just picked the occasional post to send to them. I then decided to submit more often when I remembered I do get the benefit of the powerful Huff backlink which helps DA score. Except guess what?  Rumour has it this is no longer the case because of changes made to the HuffPost platform and follow link policy.  No more link juice baby.

 

12) Blogging Gives You a Legitimate Excuse to Make Friends Online Without Feeling like a Weirdo!

And if you’re a blogger you don’t need me to explain that one. At. All.  Seriously, the camaraderie I am blessed to have with Cuddle Fairy, Island Living 365, Just Saying Mum, Life Love and Dirty Dishes, Life with Baby Kicks, Mum Muddling Through, Motherhood the Real Deal and Mess Stress and Fancy Dress some of whom I speak to often, many of whom I go to with blog queries and all of whom make me laugh.  Then there are those friendships with those I don’t speak to as regularly but adore such as Beauty Baby & Me (Fi is so good for my ego!), Mess and Merlot (Charlie = total honey), Mumbelievable (sickenly beautiful with the coolest blog name to boot), Muma on the Edge and This Mum’s Life both of whom are riotously funny. I can’t possibly name everyone but I am so grateful for all my blog mates.  And yes, I’m fully aware that Google isn’t going to like me link-packing this paragraph but sometimes you’ve just got to give your friends a shout out. #rebel

 

13) Blog Success is Subjective (and some of it is smoke and mirrors)

Crazy monthly traffic?  Collabs with amazing brands?  High engagement? Awards?  High Klout/Tots scores?  A DA above 40?  We all see blog success differently.  And sometimes all is not what it may seem.  None of us really knows what is going on behind the scene screen with a blogger. I’ve been lucky (and totally bemused I might add) to be described in high terms by my fellow bloggers and often go to cafes/ladies’ nights out and meet total strangers who recognise me and talk effusively about the blog. I’m taken aback and think really?  But I’m not earning large, I’m not working with a huge amount of brands, my DA is in the respectable bracket but not high high.  Meanwhile other bloggers look at me (I”m told) in terms of the award and other finalist place or the not too shabby looking blog design or…or…whatever it is that makes them think I’m in some blog super league because honestly I’ve no idea what they’re looking at!!  Ultimately I’m too close to it anyway but I’m convinced it’s all relative and what one perceives as a successful blog can just be a case of smoke and mirrors.

 

14) Do What Suits YOU First Because Nobody’s Paying as Much Attention to Your Blog as You Are.

I know. GASP!  It’s truuuuuuue.  (Well alright not if you’re a super uber mega league blogger whose every post people are hanging on for.)  I’m not being unkind; I just mean when we are too close to something, we think everyone notices what we see.  Fact is, unless you’re on an official deadline (linky hosting, guest posting or publishing a sponsored post) nobody will even notice if you don’t publish that post today, or tweet 30 times on Wednesday or Instagram the hell out of your whole week.  And if they notice, they’re hardly going to hold it against you.  Fair enough, I’ve been caught out by subscribers wondering if they missed an email from me (mental note to self, send out next email to my subscriber list).  I freely admit, I need to take my own advice here as I get into the flow writing and stay up blogging when I should just go the hell to bed or shut the laptop and hug my kids on the sofa in front of a film already! But I’ve become aware of it and am working on it.

When all is said done, you just have to do what works for you, your family, your sanity…  As Louise of Squished Blueberries put it so eloquently in her fab post Some Thoughts about Life and Blogging

I will never write a post because I feel like I should, because everyone else is writing those kind of posts, because I think it’s what other people want to read, because people might search for it on google, or because someone has given me a free pack of ham.

 

 

15) Fight Your Fear and Do Things You Didn’t Think You’d Ever Do

Vlogging is my big one.  Seriously, if I can put my aversion to seeing and hearing myself to one side, then anyone can!

Oh…looky look..talking of vlogging…

 

 

I know I’ll remember ten more things tomorrow but I bashed this post out super fast as I’m trying not to over think all my posts to death!  The other reason is that it’s now time for my linky with Becky to go live, I need to talk to another blogger regarding something and I still haven’t made dinner and my kids are starving.  (And tonight’s delectation is baked beans on toast because Mum’s been too busy blogging…what was that about balance?)

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The Quotes Linky Candid Cuddles 60

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Welcome to Candid Cuddles 60 with Cuddle Fairy and myself!  

Thanks so much to those of you who linked last week.  I now co-host this lovely quotes linky which relaunched a couple of weeks ago.  The Candid Cuddles linky runs every Monday evening and features inspiring, motivational, thought-provoking or just downright funny words that people share!  Believe it or not, here we are at Candid Cuddles 60.

The Candid Cuddles quote linky is about being creative, sharing a message/personal insight. Posts with any type of quote are welcome to link up.

The quote can be typed or a graphic. The quote can be inspirational, motivational, funny, sarcastic or anything else you like.  If you are new to Candid Cuddles & need any help linking up, you can read Becky’s Linky Guide or tweet either of us at @AbPrabulous / @CuddleFairy.

My Favourite Quote of Last Week

came from the lovely Ursula of Mumbelievable (I’m still envious of that amazing blog name months after discovering her) with this cute and inspiring message about parents being superheroes/legends for the gargantuan role we fulfil.  This is a meme from her Facebook page as opposed to a full post but hey ho, I love philosophy of it which is what Candid Cuddles is all about after all.  Becky’s fave was Angela’s from The Inspiration Edit a gorgeous post about self love and self belief particularly focussing on our obsession with physical beauty, an issue close to my heart as the mother of two girls.

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Candid Cuddles 60: When/Where/How!

* Will be open from Monday 7:00pm – Wednesday 7:00pm GMT.

* Every linked post gets a comment from a host & a RT from both of us.

* Pin your quote graphics to the Candid Cuddles Pinterest board. Contact  to be added to the board.

* Becky and I will each pick our favourites to feature on our blogs each week.

The Rules:

1. Add our badge to the HTML / text portion of your post or a back link to cuddlefairy.com or absolutelyprabulous.com

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2. Link your post via the inklinkz button bottom left of this post.

3. Please comment on both Host Posts, the post directly before yours & one more of your choice.  Feel free to comment on more than that, but please do those 4 as a minimum.

4. Pinterest Board Rules: Pin one quote per week to the board. The quote pinned must be linked up here.

5. After you link up, tag us for a retweet: @CuddleFairy @AbPrabulous.
Be sure to include the hashtag #candidcuddles.

(I don’t want to list this is an actual rule but if you’d like to follow me on my various social media, if not already, then I won’t stop you!  You can find me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

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So…if you have a quote, inspiring words, a funny saying etc that strikes a chord with you, we’d love it if you shared it with us here on Candid Cuddles 60.

We look forward to reading your posts! xx


The Quotes Linky Candid Cuddles 59

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Welcome to Candid Cuddles 59 with Cuddle Fairy and myself!  

Thanks so much to those of you who linked last week; how lovely to have your support as Becky and I gave the linky its first Autumn outing.  In case you missed it, I now co-host this lovely quotes linky which relaunched last week after the summer break.  The Candid Cuddles linky now runs every Monday evening.  I think it’s a great way to set yourself up properly for the week ahead because of the inspiring, motivational, thought-provoking or just downright funny words that people share!  Now here we are at Candid Cuddles 59.

 

The Candid Cuddles quote linky is about being creative, sharing a message/personal insight. Posts with any type of quote are welcome to link up.

The quote can be typed or a graphic. The quote can be inspirational, motivational, funny, sarcastic or anything else you like.  If you are new to Candid Cuddles & need any help linking up, you can read Becky’s Linky Guide or tweet either of us at @AbPrabulous / @CuddleFairy.

 

My Favourite Post of Last Week

came from the lovely Annette of 3 Little Buttons who is also Becky’s fave too.  Her post about how Blogging is Like Sailing on the Ocean honestly blew me away and I don’t know how to adequately describe how much this post resonated with me.  i’m sure many people can relate to Annette’s view of blogging; the highs, the lows, the rewards, the relationships, the everything.  The line about little dinghy’s and established battle ships…oh my goodness…writing heaven.  I do so love Annette’s writing style the more I read her.

I’d also like to tip my hat to another post that got under my skin which was the intense account of a wedding day gone horribly wrong by Petite Library.  By the time I finished reading this post, I almost needed to pour myself a stiff drink (alright I admit I don’t usually need much of an excuse) as the words she uses are filled with such emotion and she does such a great job of taking the reader with her (well this reader for sure anyway) describing how this most important of days simply disintegrated in the worst way.

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Candid Cuddles 59: When/Where/How!

* Will be open from Monday 7:00pm – Wednesday 7:00pm GMT.

* Every linked post gets a comment from a host & a RT from both of us.

* Pin your quote graphics to the Candid Cuddles Pinterest board. Contact  to be added to the board.

* Becky and I will each pick our favourites to feature on our blogs each week.

The Rules:

1. Add our badge to the HTML / text portion of your post or a back link to cuddlefairy.com or absolutelyprabulous.com

Absolutely Prabulous

2. Link your post via the inklinkz button bottom left of this post.

3. Please comment on both Host Posts, the post directly before yours & one more of your choice.  Feel free to comment on more than that, but please do those 4 as a minimum.

4. Pinterest Board Rules: Pin one quote per week to the board. The quote pinned must be linked up here.

5. After you link up, tag us for a retweet: @CuddleFairy @AbPrabulous.
Be sure to include the hashtag #candidcuddles.

(I don’t want to list this is an actual rule but if you’d like to follow me on my various social media, if not already, then I won’t stop you!  You can find me on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

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So…if you have a quote, inspiring words, a funny saying etc that strikes a chord with you, we’d love it if you shared it with us here on Candid Cuddles 58.

We look forward to reading your posts! xx


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Word! Whether You Think You Can or Think You Can’t, You’re Right

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When I first came across this memorable line by the famously respected businessman and automotive genius (not to mention the controlling egocentric) Henry Ford, it was like an enormous megawatt light bulb had just been switched on in my brain.

I don’t remember where or when I first saw it although I don’t think it was that many years ago.  What I do know is that I was so blown away by this philosophy that I absolutely had to feature it in 40 Life Lessons for my Kids.  I would love to write something insightful and profound to explain how/why it was such a personal epiphany because I think it is an amazing quote that deserves at least that.  But I’m not sure I can actually do it justice…which I guess reflects what Ford said!  So I guess I’d best try.

There is a common question; nature or nurture regarding the personalities we all have.  I believe that we’re a combination of both.

I think we are a product of the circumstances of our upbringing but also have our own inherent character.  I honestly don’t think you can separate the two.  Why do I mention this?  I think the reason that this quote was almost like an arrow between my eyes was because I grew up with a tendency towards negative thought and very little self confidence, due my  environment, which doesn’t need elaborating on here as this is all about the positive.  Suffice to say, it genuinely hadn’t dawned on me most of my life that one’s ability to achieve or competence at anything or chance of success is largely down to one’s own thought patterns.  It’s not as simplistic as convincing oneself one could make themselves invisible or fly unaided to the moon… But really in many cases, if you think you can or think you can’t, you’re probably right.   So if you really do think you can pass that exam, write that book, jump out of that plane, learn that language…then chances are you jolly well can.  And will.  Conversely if you think you can’t…well it probably won’t happen for you.  This actually makes me think of what Angela said in her post on last week’s Candid Cuddles last week.

I only became aware that I had a tendency to self sabotage (I say ‘had’ because I do think I’ve  improved a lot!) when my husband pointed it out to me not long after we met.  He realised much of my behaviour/way of thinking was down to my conditioning (we all have conditioning, it’s not unique to me) and I don’t know how many hours we spent chatting over this phenomena in the early days of getting to know one another.  So it’s not that surprising that one of Ford’s most known remarks struck me, in light of this ‘self realisation’.  It just explained so much and I could literally pinpoint specific areas of my life where I’d either talked myself out of or indeed succeeded at something.

Now that I am a parent, I honestly believe it is one of the most profound and important lessons we can pass on to our children.  

My two girls couldn’t be more different in their way of thinking.  The eldest will give up at the slightest hurdle and thinks everything is difficult and impossible from simply opening a packet of food to running a marathon and everything in between.  Bizarrely, this same child has total belief however in my abilities and wasn’t at all surprised when I won my BiBs award because she ‘knew’ I was going to (her words) and in fact was in shock when I didn’t win the MADs one (apparently when Hubster told her, she was floored and asked to see my whatsapp message herself, such was her belief in me!).  The younger one is fiercely independent and doesn’t like help unless she’s tried all avenues herself.  My son is somewhere in the middle I guess.  They’ve all grown up in the same household, same environment and in this case it’s their individual personalities that shapes their belief of whether they can or can’t do something.

Nature or nurture, it doesn’t matter, I just want them to apply themselves to whatever they do…

…be it a simple recreational drawing, a competitive sports activity or something extremely significant.  I do try to remind my eldest of this when she looks defeated by just looking at her maths homework   I need them to really truly understand:

that if they think they can or think they can’t, they’re right either way.

Then I’ll have partly done my job.

And Henry might look down and smile.

 

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Do I HAVE To Run? (asked the voices in my head)

Alter Ego: “Run time”

Me: “Do I really have to?”

Alter Ego: “What do you think? Half Marathon in ten days”

Me: “But my knee still twinges from Monday’s run”

Alter Ego: “A twinge is just that: a twinge. Quit whining.”

Me: “And it’s so cold”

Alter Ego: “So go put on another layer.”

Me: “And those winds by the coast …they’re strong!”

Alter Ego: “You’ll cope. This is Malta. Not Alaska.”

Me: “Why am I even doing the Half? Pfff.”

Alter Ego: “It’s like KL said: you’re actually training for the Half Mara dinner and drinks that night.”

Me: “Ok, ok, guess I’d better head.”

Alter Ego: “You still here then?”

To Run or Not to Run?

 

BREAKING NEWS: Mother Loses Her Running Mojo!

2013-05-12 19.36.04I just don’t understand what’s going on with me and the running at the moment.  I know it’s common to fall off the exercise wagon and often find it hard to motivate yourself.  But I’ve fallen off it so badly this time I don’t think I can even see the wagon anymore.

I made myself go for a run this morning and did something I’ve never done before and turned back so by the time I was done I’d only run just over 4 miles.

I started running in April 2012 and hit my first 8k just over a month later (which was great as I could barely run for 2 minutes on my first outing and am not exactly a spring chicken).  And from that very first run, the days of me saying “Man why do so many people run? It’s soooo boring, I’d just fall asleep if I did it” were over in a flash and it was more “I need to go for a run or I’ll go mad”.  And when my hardcore running friends said “your body’s built for this”, I thought “wow…I’ve found my thing”.

I’m NOT a hardcore runner but race-wise, somehow I’ve managed to run a half-marathon (with next to no training), win my category in a horrible 8-miler (my friends already heard this story but I’m so gonna have to share it with you too one of these days) and do a couple of 10k’s.

I’ve made myself endure the intense Mediterranean heat etc and even shocked myself and my husband to pieces by getting up early to run before starting the day.  I’ve often fallen out of the habit for mainly child care related reasons…but I’ve always managed to get back into it and happily run 14k’s on my own without needing the motivation of other runners accompanying me.

But these last 2 months…I’ve truly hit a wall.  I still haven’t registered for the 2014 Half Mara or even the Mdina to Spinola 17k  22nd December…that’s less than a month away! “ It’s too hot.”  “It’s too sunny.”  “It’s too cold.”  “It’s too windy.”  “I’m too tired.”  “I haven’t drunk enough water.”  “I don’t think I’ve eaten enough carbs.”  Yada yada yada.

Some of my running friends often post up fab motivational stuff on their social media to help their fellow runners find that drive on those dark days.  I so need to read some of them again to give me a much-needed kick up the backside. In the meantime, I’m cheering myself up with these brilliant ‘running commandments’ from the FB page Life In The Day Of a Runner:

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Just realised our Ladies’ Night ’12 Pubs of Christmas Pub Crawl’ is on 21st December.  Oh gosh, it looks like I can’t make that 17k anyway…